“Music is what feelings sound like.” – Unknown
Today is World Bipolar Day. There are many who suffer from it, just as there are many who suffer from depression. Do not judge a person based on their illness. Show compassion, and understanding. Reach out to them. It will mean the world to them. Suffering from any illness is discomforting. We are all trying to survive in this world and can use all the help we can get. Never forget, that no one is truly alone, there are many to help them out there. They must seek that help or have someone find them. Be someone special in someone’s life. As The Beatles said, “and in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make”. Make a difference to someone. Be a difference to someone. Be. Be a human, being.Namaste my fellow babies
We celebrate our happiness everydayFalling in love, getting a good job,
Having our fist baby
It’s these moments that define us
And sharing them is a must
Moments that no one can steal
It’s something that we all feel
Memories etched in our minds
Keeping a time that we can’t rewind
Suns setting, holding hands,
Our first kiss, are all just grains of sand
And there’s something bigger than us
Planets still move, it’s a big universe
How our love will grow, and expand
You ask me, and I don’t know
My heart beats, and your heart does too
It makes beautiful music, that floats through me and you
How old will we be, when our memory fades
You ask me, and I don’t really know
But we will keep riding the tides
Till we slip away to find the other side
Enjoying every little moment
the universe has to offer
you and me
These little things
are given to all of us for free
It’s the simple gifts
That mean more to you and me
And drip by drip,
we’ll drink from the cup
until we’re full
Cause everything with you
is oh so beautiful
We’ll take nothing for granted
Just absorb in all the joy
And give back what we take
All the love and happiness
that we make
In this world
In this world
COPYRIGHT 2016. FLEMMING ERIK CARLSON. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
I would rather be alone, and lonely than to be surrounded by negative or toxic people who bring me down. I just want to be happy, and if I have to isolate myself and live in a bubble to protect myself and remain positive, so be it.
I was just sitting at home minding my own business when a close relative disrupted my peace with an unwarranted text critiquing my career and what I’m doing wrong and what I need to do. I explained I was fine with my decision and happy, and this person continued to go on, and on, till I went off after telling them multiple times I was happy. I ended up telling them they were close minded, judgmental, and toxic. I told them I did not solicit their negative criticism or negative opinion. The last thing I told them was to say something nice. Haven’t heard back.
Don’t let people bring you down and rain on your parade, no matter who they are. Be happy!
“Think big thoughts but relish small pleasures.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr.
A friend of mine just got fired. He was a bit upset. It was the best thing that has happened to him in five years.
The job sucked for him. The pay was okay. But the hours were long and the work itself was tedious. He was miserable with the job. He is in his mid fifties.
Why was it good he got fired? Because I had worked along side him for almost as many years. I listened to him bitch and complain every day about the job and the company. I needed to talk to him when I heard the news. What did I say?
The first thing I did was congratulate him. Really. I did. Then I explained to him why it was a blessing. This is what I told him.
He needed to be HAPPY. He was brought up in a different time, where you were taught by society to get a job, and stay with it. If it had benefits, all the better. You only leave if you get something better.
I told him most companies now a days want and expect loyalty from their employees, but do not and are not expected to reciprocate.
The first order of loyalty you owe is to yourself. To be HAPPY. Happy for yourself, for your life, and then for others. Enjoy yourself, your life, and what you do. If you don’t, what do you have?
Many people become complacent. Complacent in their lives, complacent, in their jobs, complacent with UNHAPPINESS. It is a safe place for them because its what they know, and what they expect. They are afraid of change, afraid of the unknown. Meaning, what they DON’T KNOW.
I told my friend that I listened to him for years discuss quitting, and even at times threaten to quit. I told him the universe, gave him the push he needed, the push he was too scared to give himself, and that this was a hidden blessing. I told him that he knows what it takes to make himself happy at his age, and now it was time. And not be scared, but be HAPPY. Happy at the opportunities that await him. At fifty plus years, I asked him, where all these jobs he had in his life got him him? At the end of the day. All that hard work through the years. It paid his bills and nothing more. Because now he had no job, not a lot of savings to retire off of, and no real happiness and joy. I reminded him that as humans we are given survival instincts, and that all we NEED is food, shelter, and clothing. Everything else is just gravy. What we SEEK beyond that, in survival is comfort. Comfort through love, peace, and happiness.
I told him to go out and be HAPPY. Find a job he liked. That money was okay, but not the be all and end all. That being happy at the job he would take would be a part of his overall happiness. I explained that I had a relative that just went through a divorce. And that relative had a nice big home with a swimming pool. And he lost half of everything he worked for in the divorce, so he had to put in longer hours to get it back, and had to work on the road with his job so much, that he only spent DAYS out of the month enjoying his home and swimming pool.
Material objects do not make you happy in the long run, because you don’t NEED them. They can be for convenience, and can be fun, but you don’t NEED them. Count your blessings if you have them, but you don’t NEED them.
I got divorced, lost my house, and quit my job. I was miserable about my divorce. But I knew I needed to be happy. The house was part of my marriage. It cost me a lot of money, and a lot of money to maintain. But for me, I enjoy entertaining. I am an actor, writer, and comedian. It brings me great joy to entertain people and make them happy. Then I’m happy. So I gave up where I was living, and my job, to go back full time to doing what brings me great joy. I moved back to Los Angeles, and I couldn’t be happier right now. I spent six years in a place I didn’t care for to make someone else happy, that I gave up my happiness. And at the end of the day, I could not make them happy, and they left. And left me in a place I didn’t want to be in. So I left. I was gonna go back to doing what I like to be doing. If it buys me another house that I can deal with in my life, fine. But if not, then forget it. It’s not about the money. Money comes, money goes. My happiness was always presented by what I was doing at the moment, and who I was with. Sometimes I had money in those moments in my life, sometimes I was dirt poor. But the money NEVER dictated my happiness. I love swimming, and sailing. I enjoy the ocean and going to the beach. I DON’T need money to do that. Just for the margarita I buy at sunset.
I told my friend to make time for himself now. That he is older and wiser. That half his life is gone. What will he do, knowing what he knows now, for the second half of his life? What exactly is his foundation that he built in over fifty years, that he will build off of now that he is free from a job that bogged him down. Now that he has so little, he is so free. Nothing to tie him down of material things, nothing mentally or spiritually to hold him to a place he didn’t want anyway? I told him, to go live his life, and live it fully in a mental and spiritual capacity. That he deserved it. But he had to feel he deserved it enough to do something about it. Misery loves company. People will try to pull him back to the wrong ways of thinking. I told him not to listen to them. Listen to his inner voice. The real voice. The positive one that wants love and happiness. And go seek it. It’s not far if you really look for it. All you have to do is open your eyes and your heart. You know it’s true. It’s right in front of you if you push the obstacles away from your view that they are blocking. And, I told him, maybe you might need to cut people who are nay sayers from your life. Or at least compartmentalize where you keep them in your life as far as closeness. They maybe family members. They maybe friends you love dearly. But negativity is poisonous. Keep that away from you as much as you can. You are only as good as the company that you keep. Surround your self with positive people, surround your self with the doers, surround your self with only those whom you respect and admire, and let their positive traits influence you, then you will be far richer in your life, than your bank account mattering.
The last thing I told him on our phone call was this: Go out to a bar. Order ONE beer or drink. Not to get drunk. Only ONE. Take the first sip. Savor it in your mouth. Really taste it. Swallow. Hold the drink up and salute yourself. Say, “Here’s to me, and my future.” (Because your future is WIDE open right now. Pick the road you want to enjoy going down). Make sure to savor that celebratory drink. Then when you get done with the drink, go to a movie theater by your self right after. Sit and watch a movie, alone. Forget everything in your life. Enjoy the movie, it’s someone else’s vision/story. Maybe go for a walk after the movie. Then come home. Your mind will be cleared. Take a shower. Then read or watch TV, and go to bed. I bet, I just bet, that after you do all that, in the morning, you will be ready to take on the world in a more positive manner… For your future. A HAPPY future!
May Peace, Love, and Happiness find you in 2015!
December 31,2014 (Soon to be yesterday)
So I was given a surprise little interview today on love and my future surprisingly enough. About what I wanted. I stated for the record:
For Love – I want a partner. A best friend. A soul mate, if you will. A lover. A muse. All in one. I came close once. I really believed I had that. And I believed it for so long that I had exactly that. But sadly, it turned out not to be the case. I was wrong. But I have not given up hope and I know that incredibly special someone IS out there. And it’s only a matter of time, when the Universe will embrace my soul again, and more powerful than before, because it will be so much more than what I thought before and I look forward to it when it’s really there, and it will be so obvious.
But no matter what and no matter when, all I want out of my life is to be happy. And that is my focus. No more. No less. Single or not, rich or poor, I just want to live in the moment, become enriched in life, and my life, savor what I have, and just be happy…
If someone takes that ride with me, then that’s great, and if I go it alone, that’s okay, because I’m still taking the ride no matter what. Life is short. My life is short. I got so caught up in the wrong things like everybody else, thinking we had to live life a certain way that we were taught. I don’t want to get caught up in that. I want to live everyday by enjoying it!